Interesting ending – I intend on writing a post on the whole eating thing….
My son reminded me about this by asking me what that programme we watched was – it covers mindfulness again but it is well worth a watch……..
I have kind of lost interest in facebook, perhaps I am too old but I dont get much in the way of pleasure from it. However it did give me this and I would like to point out that the post on my wall was made over 2 months ago and I only just saw it….
On May 29th 2103 I had yet another ankle operation. This was some of the fairly routine ankle arthroscopy procedures that I have had many times. However I had discussed with the surgeon last July that when I got this done next he would also do microfracturing and these procedures would be at the same time. I have had many different procedures on my ankle over the years and was not surprised that I was put down as an urgent case.
Role onto May 2013 and I managed to get a cancellation to be on the list. I was excited to be finally moving forward and was told on the day they were doing what I had discussed with the surgeon last year, however he had now left and moved on. The day went only slightly differently to normal with me being kept in as I had to have a general anaesthetic.
The interesting thing came the next morning when, having been told by nursing staff not to put any weight on it the night before, the consultant came and told me I could not weight bear for 6 weeks at all.
This I have done and I am going to see one of the team this afternoon. However, after the 6 weeks I started walking and suffered a day or 2 with a short and weak calf muscle. A few days later when attending the Skills for Care working group on Physical Interventions I found the ankle joint to be very achy. The following week just got worse. Now having been walking for 8 days I was growing quite concerned about the ankle, just the achy feeling. It feels week in terms of needing an hour with my leg up to comfortable walk for 5 mins.
So my wife today handed me this article and hope started to arrive. In the past most of the procedures I have involve me walking out of the theatre. This has been a shock and probably because I was not aware of the depth of healing needed. Firstly I was not prepared for 6 weeks non weight bearing and secondly I needed to read the article to see that 6-12 months to recovery then follows.
you can see an arthoscopy here, there are other but this guy talks through the points.
Having been to meet the surgeon I now know I should expect around 3 or 4 more months before I am able to be on top form.
I was just reading a lifehacker post on failure and current comments. It occurred to me that just as the one minute manager separates behaviour from the person so we should with failure. In conversations on self esteem, failing can be a devastating blow to some people, however this is due to a belief about themselves as a person rather than their actions leading them to that point.
I completely agree we must all take more responsibility for our failure and this is one of the points in this post.
It is so rare for people to admit they have failed these days and stand up and take public responsibility that when it occurs we sit up and take notice. In those moments we should applaud an individual who puts their head above the parapet. For it is in those moments that relationships develop and characters build. That old fashioned concept of character is developed through learning to manage failure. We gravitate towards those who manage this emotional trauma well, process the feelings and move on.
When Virgin had the train crash a few years back in his Business Stripped Bare book Richard Branson returned early from holiday to place his face on the disaster as soon as is possible. Face the music as early and as as you can as publicly as you can. He was taking responsibility for people he employed, I doubt if he had any direct knowledge of that operation. You will learn from is and be respected more for it.
To err is human; to forgive, divine.
The second issue I want to mention is that there is from the comments this shift to shelter children from failure, however not facing the failures and feeling the fear of failure reduced the ability for the child to develop emotionally. There may be no “normal” development, but it experience tells me that people’s resilience to trauma is bolstered by experience of trauma. More on resilience another time.